A way to prevent people exaggerating how much they care about stuff is to mandate that, on average, people should care the same amount about everything. This is, very approximately, what I do with my close friends to make our mutual decisions quicker: so we don’t accidentally make large sacrifices for small benefits to the other, we say on a scale from 1-5 how much we care about each decision, and the larger carer decides.
Example: “Where do you want to go for dinner? I only care 2.”
“I care 3 (because I have a bad stomach). Let me decide.”
Over time, we’ve gotten faster, and just say the numbers unless an explanation is necessary. It’s a nice system :) I’d hate to think my friend would make large sacrifices to benefit me only small gains, and conversely, so that’s what we do.
You got it: sharing decision utility is sharing power, not welfare..
A way to prevent people exaggerating how much they care about stuff is to mandate that, on average, people should care the same amount about everything. This is, very approximately, what I do with my close friends to make our mutual decisions quicker: so we don’t accidentally make large sacrifices for small benefits to the other, we say on a scale from 1-5 how much we care about each decision, and the larger carer decides.
Example: “Where do you want to go for dinner? I only care 2.” “I care 3 (because I have a bad stomach). Let me decide.”
Over time, we’ve gotten faster, and just say the numbers unless an explanation is necessary. It’s a nice system :) I’d hate to think my friend would make large sacrifices to benefit me only small gains, and conversely, so that’s what we do.