FWIW, in my social circle it’s often used in the first person. As in, “my first response was to dismiss X as completely unnecessary; then I checked my privilege and reconsidered what X might offer to groups G1, G2, and G3.” I don’t necessarily claim that these sorts of uses are interesting or positive (that’s a discussion I don’t choose to get into here), but I don’t quite see how it involves shutting anyone down.
As for “-splaining”, I more often see it used as a way to attack a conversational strategy than directly to attack an opinion… though of course many people will choose to attack a conversational strategy as an indirect way of attacking the opinions being expressed using that strategy, or the individuals expressing them.
Similarly, many people will choose to attack word choices in such an indirect fashion, as well, in order to indirectly attack the opinions being expressed using those words or the individuals expressing them, but that doesn’t mean it’s inappropriate to challenge inappropriate word choices.
FWIW, in my social circle it’s often used in the first person. As in, “my first response was to dismiss X as completely unnecessary; then I checked my privilege and reconsidered what X might offer to groups G1, G2, and G3.” I don’t necessarily claim that these sorts of uses are interesting or positive (that’s a discussion I don’t choose to get into here), but I don’t quite see how it involves shutting anyone down.
As for “-splaining”, I more often see it used as a way to attack a conversational strategy than directly to attack an opinion… though of course many people will choose to attack a conversational strategy as an indirect way of attacking the opinions being expressed using that strategy, or the individuals expressing them.
Similarly, many people will choose to attack word choices in such an indirect fashion, as well, in order to indirectly attack the opinions being expressed using those words or the individuals expressing them, but that doesn’t mean it’s inappropriate to challenge inappropriate word choices.