Responding to the prompt for discussion: Once one finds deeply rooted filters with poor calibration, how should you go about fixing them?
I’ve heard people comment and meta-comment about how rationality seems to help people only in indirect ways. I’d also say that about myself!
I also have rarely asked for help. This is a deeply-rooted, poorly-calibrated filter. My first answer is: do the hard thing the easy way.
“Complaining more” is my way of “asking for help.” Specifically, complaining that’s directed toward a tractable problem and that explains my failed attempts and foibles. And does so in socially acceptable ways.
It’d be better to ask for help the way the therapy books tell you. But that’s an ugh field for me—at least for the things I have an ugh field about!
I hypothesize that going from having a poorly-calibrated filter to a well-calibrated one takes a lot of effort. That’s another reason to do the hard thing the easy way. It’s easier to inch away from “complaining more” toward “asking for help” than it is to whole-hog it.
A question I think is worth asking and challenging is: Once people know about trope dodging, to what extent can/will they recalibrate? I don’t know enough about human nature to hazard an answer. But if the answer is, “Not much” then that’s another point for doing the hard thing the easiest way. Better to reduce friction to permit change.
Responding to the prompt for discussion: Once one finds deeply rooted filters with poor calibration, how should you go about fixing them?
I’ve heard people comment and meta-comment about how rationality seems to help people only in indirect ways. I’d also say that about myself!
I also have rarely asked for help. This is a deeply-rooted, poorly-calibrated filter. My first answer is: do the hard thing the easy way.
“Complaining more” is my way of “asking for help.” Specifically, complaining that’s directed toward a tractable problem and that explains my failed attempts and foibles. And does so in socially acceptable ways.
It’d be better to ask for help the way the therapy books tell you. But that’s an ugh field for me—at least for the things I have an ugh field about!
I hypothesize that going from having a poorly-calibrated filter to a well-calibrated one takes a lot of effort. That’s another reason to do the hard thing the easy way. It’s easier to inch away from “complaining more” toward “asking for help” than it is to whole-hog it.
A question I think is worth asking and challenging is: Once people know about trope dodging, to what extent can/will they recalibrate? I don’t know enough about human nature to hazard an answer. But if the answer is, “Not much” then that’s another point for doing the hard thing the easiest way. Better to reduce friction to permit change.