Interesting post. I find that most of my encounters with “fabricated options” (ones I think about and also ones others propose to me) are options where the “fabricated” part is about what’s in other people’s heads. Several of your examples include things in this category. This is probably because I have a very poor perception of what about other people’s heads is more or less fixed, and what might change at a whim. If my kid really wants to go to the park, and I want to stay home, “going to the park and just being cool with it” is totally a real option for me, but it’s actually really difficult for me to figure out whether “staying home and just being cool with it” is a real option for him or not. So I might err on the side of believing whatever is convenient.
Interesting post. I find that most of my encounters with “fabricated options” (ones I think about and also ones others propose to me) are options where the “fabricated” part is about what’s in other people’s heads. Several of your examples include things in this category. This is probably because I have a very poor perception of what about other people’s heads is more or less fixed, and what might change at a whim. If my kid really wants to go to the park, and I want to stay home, “going to the park and just being cool with it” is totally a real option for me, but it’s actually really difficult for me to figure out whether “staying home and just being cool with it” is a real option for him or not. So I might err on the side of believing whatever is convenient.