No, the mistake was that I wasn’t actually interested in convincing him (or anyone) of anything—I was only trying to use the thread to collect ideas.
When I speak of rhollerith’s mistake I speak of the deviation of his actions from an optimal path for achieving his goals. In this case particularly with respect to social goals. I didn’t speak of where he violated your expectations or preferences be they professed or actual (or both). Having an accurate model of you would be relatively insignificant (and entirely redundant) when it came to predicting how his “to my satisfaction” comment would be received in the social context.
When I speak of rhollerith’s mistake I speak of the deviation of his actions from an optimal path for achieving his goals. In this case particularly with respect to social goals. I didn’t speak of where he violated your expectations or preferences be they professed or actual (or both). Having an accurate model of you would be relatively insignificant (and entirely redundant) when it came to predicting how his “to my satisfaction” comment would be received in the social context.