How do you avoid the “I am a violent person” subtext along with the “I am masochistic” subtext, while explicitly and implicitly threatening to punch people and telling them to punch you?
Yes, it is, when the punch is relatively benign, weak and as non-violent as any punch can get, yet I promised to punch them if they read such subtexts and I did when they did.
But that’s entirely irrelevant. I think we weren’t using the word “subtext” with remotely the same subtext at all. See my other response here for more details on what I assumed we were talking about.
Yeah, I was including the entire band of communication that isn’t in the words, not just the intentional part. There are messages sent entirely within the unintentional subtext, especially messages about the emotional state and perceived social status of the speaker. Those messages are important to most social groups, and I don’t think typical LW meetup participants can avoid receiving those messages, even when they don’t want to.
How do you avoid the “I am a violent person” subtext along with the “I am masochistic” subtext, while explicitly and implicitly threatening to punch people and telling them to punch you?
By punching them for reading those subtexts in a context where it was clear that reading such subtexts was entirely their own mistake.
Right. Because punching people is an effective way to contradict the subtext that you are prone to violence.
Yes, it is, when the punch is relatively benign, weak and as non-violent as any punch can get, yet I promised to punch them if they read such subtexts and I did when they did.
But that’s entirely irrelevant. I think we weren’t using the word “subtext” with remotely the same subtext at all. See my other response here for more details on what I assumed we were talking about.
Yeah, I was including the entire band of communication that isn’t in the words, not just the intentional part. There are messages sent entirely within the unintentional subtext, especially messages about the emotional state and perceived social status of the speaker. Those messages are important to most social groups, and I don’t think typical LW meetup participants can avoid receiving those messages, even when they don’t want to.