How is sharing, intimacy, suicide etc. even relevant to this type of signalling?
Not “not using it as well” but “not using this type”. I.e. this does not mean being worse at signalling, it means having reasons for not using this type.
I don’t know the reasons, but I have a hypothesis. My hypothesis is that one reason may be the social expectation that women should not engage in brawling, fist-fighting, while it is more accepted for men. I think for groups of people where it is more accepted, offense and insult is often understood as a challenge to a fight. Therefore, putting offensive things in a non-challenging way makes them clear they are a joke. For groups of people where offense is not discarged with fists, because there is a social taboo against it, it means offense does not lead to hurting each other: it is, in itself, the hurt. So the offense, the emotional hurt lingers there forever, there is no possibility to discharge the emotional energy in the catharsis of a brawl. Therefore it is harder to get accross that it is not serious. This would be my guesstimate.
It’s relevant to your original claim that people who appear better at friendship than men “need to learn to borrow this.” It’s only relevant to your current claim—which contradicts the old one—because you haven’t shown that “women don’t usually do this.” I know I’ve heard young women doing something among themselves that could be what you recommended.
How is sharing, intimacy, suicide etc. even relevant to this type of signalling?
Not “not using it as well” but “not using this type”. I.e. this does not mean being worse at signalling, it means having reasons for not using this type.
I don’t know the reasons, but I have a hypothesis. My hypothesis is that one reason may be the social expectation that women should not engage in brawling, fist-fighting, while it is more accepted for men. I think for groups of people where it is more accepted, offense and insult is often understood as a challenge to a fight. Therefore, putting offensive things in a non-challenging way makes them clear they are a joke. For groups of people where offense is not discarged with fists, because there is a social taboo against it, it means offense does not lead to hurting each other: it is, in itself, the hurt. So the offense, the emotional hurt lingers there forever, there is no possibility to discharge the emotional energy in the catharsis of a brawl. Therefore it is harder to get accross that it is not serious. This would be my guesstimate.
It’s relevant to your original claim that people who appear better at friendship than men “need to learn to borrow this.” It’s only relevant to your current claim—which contradicts the old one—because you haven’t shown that “women don’t usually do this.” I know I’ve heard young women doing something among themselves that could be what you recommended.