Perhaps the thing to make right is to make yourself better able to take advantage of that kind of thing in the future when something similar comes up down the line?
You can always only ever change the future, so mostly I find “what must be made right” is my future behavior around some situation that I’ve not been acting my best in. I find that really freeing, myself, since it explicitly maps to how there is no sense in beating yourself up about the past as long as you’ve adjusted your behavior to be better for the future. If you’ve acted sufficiently on your shame in that kind of way, that’s enough to let yourself release your shame because you’ve done all you can do to make it right.
For social situations where someone specific was wronged, stuff like apologies can help repair past damage, but I think that mostly just applies to social things. Maybe with yourself if you find that helpful to apologize to yourself about things (some might, some won’t).
Perhaps the thing to make right is to make yourself better able to take advantage of that kind of thing in the future when something similar comes up down the line?
You can always only ever change the future, so mostly I find “what must be made right” is my future behavior around some situation that I’ve not been acting my best in. I find that really freeing, myself, since it explicitly maps to how there is no sense in beating yourself up about the past as long as you’ve adjusted your behavior to be better for the future. If you’ve acted sufficiently on your shame in that kind of way, that’s enough to let yourself release your shame because you’ve done all you can do to make it right.
For social situations where someone specific was wronged, stuff like apologies can help repair past damage, but I think that mostly just applies to social things. Maybe with yourself if you find that helpful to apologize to yourself about things (some might, some won’t).