I do mutual escalation if I’m really into them, approve/disapprove when I’m not sure if I’m into them, or like if they’d be safe to flirt with. But even with mutual escalation, I usually match what they (the guy) is doing, maybe go a tiny bit further, depending on how I feel that day. This is likely confounded by how I can get attracted to someone if we spend a few hours talking, even if I wasn’t attracted when I first met them. I think I was more likely to do mutual escalation when I was younger too
I do mutual escalation if I’m really into them, approve/disapprove when I’m not sure if I’m into them, or like if they’d be safe to flirt with. But even with mutual escalation, I usually match what they (the guy) is doing, maybe go a tiny bit further, depending on how I feel that day. This is likely confounded by how I can get attracted to someone if we spend a few hours talking, even if I wasn’t attracted when I first met them. I think I was more likely to do mutual escalation when I was younger too