Yes! Mark Manson explicitly gives this as dating advice in Models (which I recommend, it’s much less PUA-flavored than it might look): figure out what sort of person you are, be that sort of person really hard, then put yourself in environments where people who like that sort of person congregate so you can date them.
Models was one of the best books I read in my young adult male life. Mark’s content in those years was gold. I was really looking forward to and consequently super disappointed with “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”. I hated his his gimmicky use of profanity, and since then, it seems like he’s stuck with it as well as moved to a much less nuanced, more commercialized style of writing. Can’t blame him with the success he’s achieved with that approach, but it’s too bad.
Yes! Mark Manson explicitly gives this as dating advice in Models (which I recommend, it’s much less PUA-flavored than it might look): figure out what sort of person you are, be that sort of person really hard, then put yourself in environments where people who like that sort of person congregate so you can date them.
The excerpts are interesting, but pretty much just as PUA-flavored as it looks. :P
Is Models similar or adjacent idea-wise to this article?
Complementary but not that directly related. Models is mostly about how to be attractive as opposed to how to not be seen as dangerous.
Models was one of the best books I read in my young adult male life. Mark’s content in those years was gold. I was really looking forward to and consequently super disappointed with “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”. I hated his his gimmicky use of profanity, and since then, it seems like he’s stuck with it as well as moved to a much less nuanced, more commercialized style of writing. Can’t blame him with the success he’s achieved with that approach, but it’s too bad.