you managed to annoy him without actually demonstrating that annoyance is a valid response.
Disagree. When Eugine reads the first sentence of what I said above, he’s going to be annoyed whether or not I follow up the sentence with an explanation. It was an annoying sentence.
It is good to try not to be affected by the emotional valence of statements, but it is also good to recognize that your statements have emotional valences (and that you can control these). We should optimize for making [helpful comments] and making [comments that give other people the opportunity to test their ability to resist letting emotional biases cloud their judgment] separately.
Disagree. When Eugine reads the first sentence of what I said above, he’s going to be annoyed whether or not I follow up the sentence with an explanation. It was an annoying sentence.
It is good to try not to be affected by the emotional valence of statements, but it is also good to recognize that your statements have emotional valences (and that you can control these). We should optimize for making [helpful comments] and making [comments that give other people the opportunity to test their ability to resist letting emotional biases cloud their judgment] separately.
So it was an explanation-by-demonstration.