When I have had such a golem used against me, I was told by my lover that she had kept a rather ugly situation from me “because I know how you’d react.” I described to her exactly what the situation was, as I’d pieced it together very accurately (you can do this with the actions of humans, not the humans themselves). She was stunned. When I described for her how the root assumptions she had made were very largely off the mark, she actually became very angry with me, defending the golem as though it represented the truth, and therefore I must be lying! In the end, she could have better determined my reaction from writing down the possibilities on slips of paper and choosing one out of a hat. …
Were I replying to Anthony I would recommend learning to stick to what matters to him and not allow himself to be distracted by excuses. I know I like to be ‘understood’. I hate being ‘golemized incorrectly’. If I, or Anthony, allow this weakness to be exploited in communication it can easily be used as a defensive or offensive weapon, as demonstrated by Anthony’s feisty lover.
Were I replying to Anthony I would recommend learning to stick to what matters to him and not allow himself to be distracted by excuses. I know I like to be ‘understood’. I hate being ‘golemized incorrectly’. If I, or Anthony, allow this weakness to be exploited in communication it can easily be used as a defensive or offensive weapon, as demonstrated by Anthony’s feisty lover.