If the child has an incorrect or incomplete picture of their capabilities (which is almost always the case since schools don’t reliably and regularly test childrens mental traits) then this advice will result in them over or underestimating their capabilities causing them to make terrible life decision.
Number 4 sounds like it would back fire horribly.
If the child has an incorrect or incomplete picture of their capabilities (which is almost always the case since schools don’t reliably and regularly test childrens mental traits) then this advice will result in them over or underestimating their capabilities causing them to make terrible life decision.