There’s no real way you could have known this if you just got here, but references to pickup artistry tend to rub people the wrong way. There was a flame war a couple years ago (before I joined the site) between people who thought studying PUA would be useful for romantic success, and people who thought PUA presents romance/dating as overly adversarial and therefore immoral or more harm than good. Other analogies that get your points across equivalently will be better received.
Ah thanks. I didn’t know that back story. I always kind of inferred it was a touchy subject around these parts, but I wasn’t around for that. Was there ever any real conclusion to that? It seems to me like the consensus has been towards the former, rather than the latter, but I could be wrong.
Your guess may be as good as mine. As far as I can tell, the consensus was that we shouldn’t talk about it. This probably came from both the people who believed it was wrong and the people who just wanted to get on with life.
There’s no real way you could have known this if you just got here, but references to pickup artistry tend to rub people the wrong way. There was a flame war a couple years ago (before I joined the site) between people who thought studying PUA would be useful for romantic success, and people who thought PUA presents romance/dating as overly adversarial and therefore immoral or more harm than good. Other analogies that get your points across equivalently will be better received.
Ah thanks. I didn’t know that back story. I always kind of inferred it was a touchy subject around these parts, but I wasn’t around for that. Was there ever any real conclusion to that? It seems to me like the consensus has been towards the former, rather than the latter, but I could be wrong.
Your guess may be as good as mine. As far as I can tell, the consensus was that we shouldn’t talk about it. This probably came from both the people who believed it was wrong and the people who just wanted to get on with life.