How about a combination of 1 and 7. It isn’t the high status itself that raises the cost of losing face, it is the status disparity between the high status person and the low status interlocutor. Listening to and accepting the interlocutor’s arguments means reducing (to some extent) the disparity. But high status people can engage in intelligent conversation with their equals.
Would it be helpful if we occasionally mocked, berated and told you how low-status you really are in the scheme of things? (Only half kidding).
How about a combination of 1 and 7. It isn’t the high status itself that raises the cost of losing face, it is the status disparity between the high status person and the low status interlocutor. Listening to and accepting the interlocutor’s arguments means reducing (to some extent) the disparity. But high status people can engage in intelligent conversation with their equals.
Would it be helpful if we occasionally mocked, berated and told you how low-status you really are in the scheme of things? (Only half kidding).
No. If you were going to try something like that, and you shouldn’t, you would try expecting more from me in the areas I was already good at.
EDIT: So as to keep me in a state of status-seeking, rather than status-having—low status isn’t necessarily good either.