Some people (cough Luke A Somers cough but not only) when offended have a real problem noticing if the fundamental cause of their offense was a misinterpretation. They demand an apology, and are told (correctly) that the offending remark was never made, or that there is an alternate interpretation—but are unable to perceive this alternate interpretation. This response, in their view, compounds the offense by a refusal to take responsibility and apologize.
It’s tough to get out of, but simply being aware that this happens is a big help. “I have a blind spot” is very useful information.
Some people (cough Luke A Somers cough but not only) when offended have a real problem noticing if the fundamental cause of their offense was a misinterpretation. They demand an apology, and are told (correctly) that the offending remark was never made, or that there is an alternate interpretation—but are unable to perceive this alternate interpretation. This response, in their view, compounds the offense by a refusal to take responsibility and apologize.
It’s tough to get out of, but simply being aware that this happens is a big help. “I have a blind spot” is very useful information.