I agree with you that there are situations where the issue comes from a cultural norm rather than psychological problems. That’s one reason for the last part of this post, where we point out to generally positive and productive norms that try to avoid these cultural problems and make it possible to discuss them. (One of the issue I see in my own life with cultural norms is that they are way harder to discuss when in addition psychological problems compound them and make them feel sore and emotional). But you might be right that it’s worth highlighting more.
In a more meta point, my model is that we have moved from societies where almost everything is considered ″people’s fault” to societies where almost everything is considered “society’s fault”. And it strikes me that this is an overcorrection, and that actually many issues in day to day life and groups are just people’s problem (here drawing from my experience of realizing in many situations that I was the problem, and in other — less common — that the norms were the problem.)
Thanks for the comment!
I agree with you that there are situations where the issue comes from a cultural norm rather than psychological problems. That’s one reason for the last part of this post, where we point out to generally positive and productive norms that try to avoid these cultural problems and make it possible to discuss them. (One of the issue I see in my own life with cultural norms is that they are way harder to discuss when in addition psychological problems compound them and make them feel sore and emotional). But you might be right that it’s worth highlighting more.
In a more meta point, my model is that we have moved from societies where almost everything is considered ″people’s fault” to societies where almost everything is considered “society’s fault”. And it strikes me that this is an overcorrection, and that actually many issues in day to day life and groups are just people’s problem (here drawing from my experience of realizing in many situations that I was the problem, and in other — less common — that the norms were the problem.)
I think I agree with everything in your comment. Seems like there was less disagreement here than I initially thought. Moving on… :)