There is a big difference between the title and the post text: the word “you” vs “a.”
For me, personally: yes, I think it was the right choice. For a generic unspecified “rationalist”—it depends on both them and their partner. There’s nothing fundamentally wrong about valuing traditions and symbols that feel meaningful to you or your partner. In my case I found ways to layer multiple sources of meaning/symbolism without spending a lot (which is good, and something we both appreciate, for its own sake and because for various reasons the ring doesn’t get worn much). That said, if it ever got stolen or destroyed or something, I don’t think we’d replace it.
There is a big difference between the title and the post text: the word “you” vs “a.”
For me, personally: yes, I think it was the right choice. For a generic unspecified “rationalist”—it depends on both them and their partner. There’s nothing fundamentally wrong about valuing traditions and symbols that feel meaningful to you or your partner. In my case I found ways to layer multiple sources of meaning/symbolism without spending a lot (which is good, and something we both appreciate, for its own sake and because for various reasons the ring doesn’t get worn much). That said, if it ever got stolen or destroyed or something, I don’t think we’d replace it.