That is indeed a large potential cost to doing this kind of thing too much.
I think this post was intended to be much more narrow tho. I like the idea of ‘compensating’ a kid when you accidentally offer them a ‘false choice’ – that seems fair and otherwise reasonable too.
But, yes, some decisions should be made by parents and not be negotiable. And offering a small set of (reasonable) options is better than a misleading open-ended query. (That’s annoying when adults do it to each other too.)
That is indeed a large potential cost to doing this kind of thing too much.
I think this post was intended to be much more narrow tho. I like the idea of ‘compensating’ a kid when you accidentally offer them a ‘false choice’ – that seems fair and otherwise reasonable too.
But, yes, some decisions should be made by parents and not be negotiable. And offering a small set of (reasonable) options is better than a misleading open-ended query. (That’s annoying when adults do it to each other too.)