First, for modern humans fighting is not the only method of achieving higher status. There are other ways, too. Guys like Keanu Reeves are examples of successfully using the other methods. If you are a movie superstar, you don’t have to fight with people to be recognized.
Second, even the fighters don’t fight all the time. This is precisely why social animals have pecking order—cached results of the previous fights. If you won against someone yesterday, most likely he will not challenge you today; therefore you can be today admired as peaceful. The more clear was your victory, the longer time will pass until someone dares to challenge you again. Therefore, if someone is obviously stronger that all his competitors, he will actually fight very rarely. It’s like the first place is “does not have to fight because no one dares to fight him”, second place is “fights and wins”, third place is “fights and loses”, and the last place is “too afraid to fight”. Also, often the real fight is avoided if both parties agree on their estimate of who would win. (Analogically: a policeman has a gun, but he uses the gun very rarely. The mere presence of the gun, and the knowledge that he would use it if necessary, causes the psychological effect.)
So the best case is to be seen as so poweful that everyone else just gives up. Then you can be dominant and peaceful. But if you don’t have the real fighting power, sooner or later someone will call your bluff. (In case of Keanu Reeves, his power is social. If you try to go and kick him, his fans wil come to his defense, and his lawyers will destroy you. Your power is not just your individual, but also all those people who would come to fight for you.)
First, for modern humans fighting is not the only method of achieving higher status. There are other ways, too. Guys like Keanu Reeves are examples of successfully using the other methods. If you are a movie superstar, you don’t have to fight with people to be recognized.
Second, even the fighters don’t fight all the time. This is precisely why social animals have pecking order—cached results of the previous fights. If you won against someone yesterday, most likely he will not challenge you today; therefore you can be today admired as peaceful. The more clear was your victory, the longer time will pass until someone dares to challenge you again. Therefore, if someone is obviously stronger that all his competitors, he will actually fight very rarely. It’s like the first place is “does not have to fight because no one dares to fight him”, second place is “fights and wins”, third place is “fights and loses”, and the last place is “too afraid to fight”. Also, often the real fight is avoided if both parties agree on their estimate of who would win. (Analogically: a policeman has a gun, but he uses the gun very rarely. The mere presence of the gun, and the knowledge that he would use it if necessary, causes the psychological effect.)
So the best case is to be seen as so poweful that everyone else just gives up. Then you can be dominant and peaceful. But if you don’t have the real fighting power, sooner or later someone will call your bluff. (In case of Keanu Reeves, his power is social. If you try to go and kick him, his fans wil come to his defense, and his lawyers will destroy you. Your power is not just your individual, but also all those people who would come to fight for you.)