Do you think that it’s rude? It seems sensible to me.
It seems that people interpret such actions as hostile. And people who say things like that probably are hostile. However, I don’t think the likelihood of the person being hostile is high enough such that you should conclude that they actually are. I think that the likelihood is low enough such that the courteous thing to do is investigate further as why they’re saying that.
And if they’re well intentioned—ie. they want both parties to find someone that they’re compatible and happy with, and are just trying to do a good job of that—then I think the mature thing to do is to respect it.
Do you think that it’s rude? It seems sensible to me.
It seems that people interpret such actions as hostile. And people who say things like that probably are hostile. However, I don’t think the likelihood of the person being hostile is high enough such that you should conclude that they actually are. I think that the likelihood is low enough such that the courteous thing to do is investigate further as why they’re saying that.
And if they’re well intentioned—ie. they want both parties to find someone that they’re compatible and happy with, and are just trying to do a good job of that—then I think the mature thing to do is to respect it.