If the popular kids in the cool kids’ club don’t like Goldstein and your only goal is to make sure that the popular kids feel comfortable, then clearly your optimal policy is to kick Goldstein out of the club. But if you have some other goal that you’re trying to pursue with the club that the popular kids and Goldstein both have a stake in, then I think you do have to try to evaluate whether Goldstein “did anything wrong”, rather than just checking that everyone feels comfortable. Just ensuring that everyone feels comfortable at all costs, without regard to the reasons why people feel uncomfortable or any notion that some reasons aren’t legitimate grounds for intervention, amounts to relinquishing all control to anyone who feels uncomfortable when someone else doesn’t behave exactly how they want.
Something I appreciate about the existing user ban functionality is that it is a rule-based mechanism. I have been persuaded by Achmiz and Dai’s arguments that it’s bad for our collective understanding that user bans prevent criticism, but at least it’s a procedurally “fair” kind of badness that I can tolerate, not completely arbitrary tyranny. The impartiality really helps. Do you really want to throw away that scrap of legitimacy in the name of optimizing outcomes even harder? Why?
I think just trying to ‘follow the rules’ might not succeed at making everyone feel comfortable interacting with you
But I’m not trying to make everyone feel comfortable interacting with me. I’m trying to achieve shared maps that reflect the territory.
A big part of the reason some of my recent comments in this thread appeal to an inability or justified disinclination to convincingly pretend to not be judgmental is because your boss seems to disregard with prejudice Achmiz’s denials that his comments are “intended to make people feel judged”. In response to that, I’m “biting the bullet”: saying, okay, let’s grant that a commenter is judging someone; to what lengths must they go to conceal that, in order to prevent others from predictably feeling judged, given that people aren’t idiots and can read subtext?
I think there’s something much more fundamental at stake here, which is that an intellectual forum that’s being held hostage to people’s feelings is intrinsically hampered and can’t be at the forefront of advancing the art of human rationality. If my post claims X, and a commenter says, “No, that’s wrong, actually not-X because Y”, it would be a non-sequitur for me to reply, “I’d prefer you engage with what I wrote with more curiosity and kindness.” Curiosity and kindness are just not logically relevant to the claim! (If I think the commenter has misconstrued what I wrote, I could just say that.) It needs to be possible to discuss ideas without getting tone-policed to death. Once you start playing this game of litigating feelings and feelings about other people’s feelings, there’s no end to it. The only stable Schelling point that doesn’t immediately dissolve into endless total war is to have rules and for everyone to take responsibility for their own feelings within the rules.
I don’t think this is an unrealistic superhumanly high standard. As you’ve noticed, I am myself a pretty emotional person and tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. There are definitely times as recently as, um, yesterday, when I procrastinate checking this website because I’m scared that someone will have said something that will make me upset. In that sense, I think I do have some empathy for people who say that bad comments make them less likely to use the website. It’s just that, ultimately, I think that my sensitivity and vulnerability is my problem. Censoring voices that other people are interested in hearing would be making it everyone else’s problem.
I think there’s something much more fundamental at stake here, which is that an intellectual forum that’s being held hostage to people’s feelings is intrinsically hampered and can’t be at the forefront of advancing the art of human rationality.
An intellectual forum that is not being “held hostage” to people’s feelings will instead be overrun by hostile actors who either are in it just to hurt people’s feelings, or who want to win through hurting people’s feelings.
It’s just that, ultimately, I think that my sensitivity and vulnerability is my problem.
Some sensitivity is your problem. Some sensitivity is the “problem” of being human and not reacting like Spock. It is unreasonable to treat all sensitivity as being the problem of the sensitive person.
A key reason to favor behavioral rules over trying to directly optimize outcomes (even granting that enforcement can’t be completely mechanized and there will always be some nonzero element of human judgement) is that act consequentialism doesn’t interact well with game theory, particularly when one of the consequences involved is people’s feelings.
If the popular kids in the cool kids’ club don’t like Goldstein and your only goal is to make sure that the popular kids feel comfortable, then clearly your optimal policy is to kick Goldstein out of the club. But if you have some other goal that you’re trying to pursue with the club that the popular kids and Goldstein both have a stake in, then I think you do have to try to evaluate whether Goldstein “did anything wrong”, rather than just checking that everyone feels comfortable. Just ensuring that everyone feels comfortable at all costs, without regard to the reasons why people feel uncomfortable or any notion that some reasons aren’t legitimate grounds for intervention, amounts to relinquishing all control to anyone who feels uncomfortable when someone else doesn’t behave exactly how they want.
Something I appreciate about the existing user ban functionality is that it is a rule-based mechanism. I have been persuaded by Achmiz and Dai’s arguments that it’s bad for our collective understanding that user bans prevent criticism, but at least it’s a procedurally “fair” kind of badness that I can tolerate, not completely arbitrary tyranny. The impartiality really helps. Do you really want to throw away that scrap of legitimacy in the name of optimizing outcomes even harder? Why?
But I’m not trying to make everyone feel comfortable interacting with me. I’m trying to achieve shared maps that reflect the territory.
A big part of the reason some of my recent comments in this thread appeal to an inability or justified disinclination to convincingly pretend to not be judgmental is because your boss seems to disregard with prejudice Achmiz’s denials that his comments are “intended to make people feel judged”. In response to that, I’m “biting the bullet”: saying, okay, let’s grant that a commenter is judging someone; to what lengths must they go to conceal that, in order to prevent others from predictably feeling judged, given that people aren’t idiots and can read subtext?
I think there’s something much more fundamental at stake here, which is that an intellectual forum that’s being held hostage to people’s feelings is intrinsically hampered and can’t be at the forefront of advancing the art of human rationality. If my post claims X, and a commenter says, “No, that’s wrong, actually not-X because Y”, it would be a non-sequitur for me to reply, “I’d prefer you engage with what I wrote with more curiosity and kindness.” Curiosity and kindness are just not logically relevant to the claim! (If I think the commenter has misconstrued what I wrote, I could just say that.) It needs to be possible to discuss ideas without getting tone-policed to death. Once you start playing this game of litigating feelings and feelings about other people’s feelings, there’s no end to it. The only stable Schelling point that doesn’t immediately dissolve into endless total war is to have rules and for everyone to take responsibility for their own feelings within the rules.
I don’t think this is an unrealistic superhumanly high standard. As you’ve noticed, I am myself a pretty emotional person and tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. There are definitely times as recently as, um, yesterday, when I procrastinate checking this website because I’m scared that someone will have said something that will make me upset. In that sense, I think I do have some empathy for people who say that bad comments make them less likely to use the website. It’s just that, ultimately, I think that my sensitivity and vulnerability is my problem. Censoring voices that other people are interested in hearing would be making it everyone else’s problem.
An intellectual forum that is not being “held hostage” to people’s feelings will instead be overrun by hostile actors who either are in it just to hurt people’s feelings, or who want to win through hurting people’s feelings.
Some sensitivity is your problem. Some sensitivity is the “problem” of being human and not reacting like Spock. It is unreasonable to treat all sensitivity as being the problem of the sensitive person.