I intend to apply to as many places as I think would be useful, don’t worry, including plenty of schools that are much less of a long shot than Stanford, Ivy Leagues, etc. I love giving myself options. :)
To answer your question, the arrangement we’ve worked out is that we take out a loan, my parents start off paying it if I can’t, then once I get a job I take over the payments, and later reimburse them fully. It would cost them more financially to send me to the East Coast, but I know them well enough to know that’s not the reason they wouldn’t let me go. It’s largely cultural, I would guess, plus the fact that I don’t have any siblings and so they might have grown more attached to me than most parents would. Additionally, they’re conservative and I’m female. If I really couldn’t afford to come home regularly (which they imagine to be at least twice a month, but will probably work out to be way more rare), I think they might have nightmares about all the (scandalous, immoral) fun I could be having over the weekends and the breaks.
I do love them though, and I can’t get so angry with them for the way they were brought up. There’s no way in hell I’m going to be perfectly obedient if I’ve decided that something is safe, ethical, and worthwhile, but I’ll still care, just like I still care that my mom doesn’t like that I’m an atheist.
I intend to apply to as many places as I think would be useful, don’t worry, including plenty of schools that are much less of a long shot than Stanford, Ivy Leagues, etc. I love giving myself options. :)
To answer your question, the arrangement we’ve worked out is that we take out a loan, my parents start off paying it if I can’t, then once I get a job I take over the payments, and later reimburse them fully. It would cost them more financially to send me to the East Coast, but I know them well enough to know that’s not the reason they wouldn’t let me go. It’s largely cultural, I would guess, plus the fact that I don’t have any siblings and so they might have grown more attached to me than most parents would. Additionally, they’re conservative and I’m female. If I really couldn’t afford to come home regularly (which they imagine to be at least twice a month, but will probably work out to be way more rare), I think they might have nightmares about all the (scandalous, immoral) fun I could be having over the weekends and the breaks.
I do love them though, and I can’t get so angry with them for the way they were brought up. There’s no way in hell I’m going to be perfectly obedient if I’ve decided that something is safe, ethical, and worthwhile, but I’ll still care, just like I still care that my mom doesn’t like that I’m an atheist.