“please don’t shitpost and when you engage with me please avoid all attempts at humor because these pattern-match to ways I am abused and if you do those things even if in good faith it will only hurt our communication, perhaps disastrously, never help” would, I think, cover basically everything you want to cover without also signaling that it will be extremely emotionally draining to engage with you.
OTOH if it will be extremely emotionally draining to engage with you then you have successfully signaled that.
Possibly this isn’t fair but I’m pretty sure it’s an accurate reading.
Feedback:
“please don’t shitpost and when you engage with me please avoid all attempts at humor because these pattern-match to ways I am abused and if you do those things even if in good faith it will only hurt our communication, perhaps disastrously, never help” would, I think, cover basically everything you want to cover without also signaling that it will be extremely emotionally draining to engage with you.
OTOH if it will be extremely emotionally draining to engage with you then you have successfully signaled that.
Possibly this isn’t fair but I’m pretty sure it’s an accurate reading.