Many years after having read it, I’m finding that the “Perils of Interacting With Acquaintances” section in The Great Perils of Social Interaction has really stuck with me. It is probably one of the more useful pieces of practical advice I’ve come across in my life. I think it’s illustrated really well in this barber story:
But that assumes that you can only be normal around someone you know well, which is not true. I started using a new barber last year, and I was pleasantly surprised when instead of making small talk or asking me questions about my life, he just started talking to me like I was his friend or involving me in his conversations with the other barber. By doing so, he spared both of us the massive inauthenticity of a typical barber-customer relationship and I actually enjoy going there now.
I make it a point to “be normal” around people and it’s become something of a habit. One I’m glad that I’ve formed.
Many years after having read it, I’m finding that the “Perils of Interacting With Acquaintances” section in The Great Perils of Social Interaction has really stuck with me. It is probably one of the more useful pieces of practical advice I’ve come across in my life. I think it’s illustrated really well in this barber story:
I make it a point to “be normal” around people and it’s become something of a habit. One I’m glad that I’ve formed.