“Though ye be angry, sin not;” yet here is evidently a distinction made, between anger and sin”
I would be more comfortable replacing “sin” with the less theologically loaded “action” to arrive at a simple principle: don’t act upon decisions when angry.
Montaigne expresses a similar idea to you—of adjusting timelines in the appearance of anger: if he appears to be getting angry he begs that the other person to “let me alone ” (i.e. walk away) and he will return the favor:
I can easily contain myself from entering into one of these passions, and am strong enough, when I expect them, to repel their violence, be the cause never so great; but if a passion once prepossess and seize me, it carries me away, be the cause never so small. I bargain thus with those who may contend with me when you see me moved first, let me alone, right or wrong; I’ll do the same for you. The storm is only begot by a concurrence of angers, which easily spring from one another, and are not born together. Let every one have his own way, and we shall be always at peace. A profitable advice, but hard to execute. - Montaigne, of Anger—translated by Charles Cotton
Seneca also advises the idea of time-out:
Now we ought to fight against the first causes of evil: the cause of anger is the belief that we are injured; this belief, therefore, should not be lightly entertained. We ought not to fly into a rage even when the injury appears to be open and distinct: for some false things bear the semblance of truth. We should always allow some time to elapse, for time discloses the truth. Let not our ears be easily lent to calumnious talk: let us know and be on our guard against this fault of human nature, that we are willing to believe what we are unwilling to listen to, and that we become angry before we have formed our opinion. What shall I say? we are influenced not merely by calumnies but by suspicions, and at the very look and smile of others we may fly into a rage with innocent persons because we put the worst construction upon it. We ought, therefore, to plead the cause of the absent against ourselves, and to keep Our anger in abeyance: for a punishment which has been postponed may yet be inflicted, but when once inflicted cannot be recalled. -Seneca, Of Anger, XXII
Interestingly, Seneca takes a view[1] similar to Aristotle that
“it seems that Anger does in a way listen to Reason but mishears it...dogs, again, bark at the slightest stir, before they have seen whether it be friend or foe; just so Anger, ”—Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics
While not about anger, when F1 World Champion and soon to be Airline Entrepreneur and Niki Lauda was considering retiring for the first time from F1 his then boss, Brabham team owner Bernie Ecclestone, urged him to step out of the racecar. Go to the hotel. As Lauda relates it Ecclestone told him:
“”This is an emotional decision, think about it twice. Don’t make a stupid decision now. Give it time don’t [test the car] for the afternoon. Think about it carefully. Don’t make a mistake.”—Which I thought was very nice of Bernie”
“A man may think himself injured, may wish to avenge his wrongs, and then may be persuaded by some reason or other to give up his intention and calm down: I do not call that anger, it is an emotion of the mind which is under the control of reason. Anger is that which goes beyond reason and carries her away with it: wherefore the first confusion of a man’s mind when struck by what seems an injury is no more anger than the apparent injury itself: it is the subsequent mad rush, which not only receives the impression of the apparent injury, but acts upon it as true, that is anger...”—Seneca
As Jospeh Butler succinctly wrote:
I would be more comfortable replacing “sin” with the less theologically loaded “action” to arrive at a simple principle: don’t act upon decisions when angry.
Montaigne expresses a similar idea to you—of adjusting timelines in the appearance of anger: if he appears to be getting angry he begs that the other person to “let me alone ” (i.e. walk away) and he will return the favor:
Seneca also advises the idea of time-out:
Interestingly, Seneca takes a view[1] similar to Aristotle that
While not about anger, when F1 World Champion and soon to be Airline Entrepreneur and Niki Lauda was considering retiring for the first time from F1 his then boss, Brabham team owner Bernie Ecclestone, urged him to step out of the racecar. Go to the hotel.
As Lauda relates it Ecclestone told him:
“A man may think himself injured, may wish to avenge his wrongs, and then may be persuaded by some reason or other to give up his intention and calm down: I do not call that anger, it is an emotion of the mind which is under the control of reason. Anger is that which goes beyond reason and carries her away with it: wherefore the first confusion of a man’s mind when struck by what seems an injury is no more anger than the apparent injury itself: it is the subsequent mad rush, which not only receives the impression of the apparent injury, but acts upon it as true, that is anger...”—Seneca