I don’t think your desire for better understanding and behavior from your mother is necessarily an irrational desire for her approval—it’s normal to want to have a good mother. On the other hand, it sounds like it’s extremely unlikely that she will improve.
The Dysfunctional Family threads at Making Light might be another good resource for you.
I don’t think your desire for better understanding and behavior from your mother is necessarily an irrational desire for her approval—it’s normal to want to have a good mother. On the other hand, it sounds like it’s extremely unlikely that she will improve.