As far as I know, men tend to choose female friends who are attractive.
you should focus on making platonic friends with people you find attractive, without trying to date them at all, and then see what happens?
If the situation is symmetric (i.e. women also tend to choose male friends who are attractive), then if you are not attractive, what happens is that your attempts to make platonic friends will probably not be reciprocated.
[testing mind-reading] also has a clear negative selection effect for ‘men who go around hitting on everyone a lot’
Not sure about this. A man who stretches his attention thin between many women may be worse at reading any particular woman’s mind, but better at noticing the statistical patterns. (He says the right things on the third date not because he understands her perfectly, but because he knows from experience that saying the same thing on the second date is usually too early and saying it on the fourth date is usually too late.)
I think that if you select for smooth players, then smooth players is exactly what you will get. Although you will select against clumsy players; the type of guy who barely has any skill beyond “approach a lot”.
Also, this selects for men who are familiar with your (sub)culture, which seems like a good thing. Unless you grew up in a culture that you hate, of course, then it seems like a bad thing.
One detailed complaint from a client who paid $4,500 articulated the perceived unfairness of being matched with men who had only paid the $99 database fee, a critical detail she claims was never disclosed during the sales process.
If the situation is symmetric (i.e. women also tend to choose male friends who are attractive), then if you are not attractive, what happens is that your attempts to make platonic friends will probably not be reciprocated.
Not sure about this. A man who stretches his attention thin between many women may be worse at reading any particular woman’s mind, but better at noticing the statistical patterns. (He says the right things on the third date not because he understands her perfectly, but because he knows from experience that saying the same thing on the second date is usually too early and saying it on the fourth date is usually too late.)
I think that if you select for smooth players, then smooth players is exactly what you will get. Although you will select against clumsy players; the type of guy who barely has any skill beyond “approach a lot”.
Also, this selects for men who are familiar with your (sub)culture, which seems like a good thing. Unless you grew up in a culture that you hate, of course, then it seems like a bad thing.
This is hilarious.