I don’t quite see how, in the hot sauce example, the girlfriend is “treating [the OP] like he retroactively made her cooking worse. ” Hot sauce tends to improve the taste of food, so it appears that she perceives his addition of the condiment (increasing his appreciation of the food) as implying that her food isn’t of sufficient quality to be palatable on its own.
that can end up feeling like the information makes your cooking worse; because you update your belief about your cooking after receiving the information.
That’s very much true. However, it appears to me the object of frustration is the gesture’s sentiment (as evidenced by the girlfriend’s focus on the gesture specifically). Thus, I find it dubious that the girlfriend’s primary concern was the changes in her own beliefs regarding her cooking.
I don’t quite see how, in the hot sauce example, the girlfriend is “treating [the OP] like he retroactively made her cooking worse. ” Hot sauce tends to improve the taste of food, so it appears that she perceives his addition of the condiment (increasing his appreciation of the food) as implying that her food isn’t of sufficient quality to be palatable on its own.
that can end up feeling like the information makes your cooking worse; because you update your belief about your cooking after receiving the information.
That’s very much true. However, it appears to me the object of frustration is the gesture’s sentiment (as evidenced by the girlfriend’s focus on the gesture specifically). Thus, I find it dubious that the girlfriend’s primary concern was the changes in her own beliefs regarding her cooking.