I do agree with you about exposure therapy; I think it’s important in the sense that it gets you reps on this stuff, I just don’t think it necessarily functions alone without conscious reordering of your goals away from “control others’ internal state”
I saw several people at LessOnline concerned explicitly about their social phobia about trying to ensure they were never boring anyone, and I don’t think that is solvable without explicitly abandoning “never bore anyone” as a goal (an alternative goal structure might be “ensure I am always giving adequate space in the conversation”, which is fine because that is a goal you can easily implement and verify.)
Yeah. Rejection sucks, social humiliation sucks.
I do agree with you about exposure therapy; I think it’s important in the sense that it gets you reps on this stuff, I just don’t think it necessarily functions alone without conscious reordering of your goals away from “control others’ internal state”
I saw several people at LessOnline concerned explicitly about their social phobia about trying to ensure they were never boring anyone, and I don’t think that is solvable without explicitly abandoning “never bore anyone” as a goal (an alternative goal structure might be “ensure I am always giving adequate space in the conversation”, which is fine because that is a goal you can easily implement and verify.)