Women usually try to conceal how much they dislike it—for fairly good reasons. They assume that the purpose of street harassment is to cause discomfort, so they want to deny reinforcement to the harassers.
At least some men who do street harassment have a belief that women secretly like street harassment, which mean that they (the men) discount such indications of dislike as they might notice.
I believe that people in general are much less clueful about other people’s emotions than it feels like they should be from the inside. Now that I think about it, I’ve only known one person who could read me accurately when I was shielding (some of the time), or at least only one who talked about what he was seeing.
When I was going through a very bad spell, I was interested to notice that the way I was treated didn’t seem to change at all. Now it’s plausible that I was missing some subtleties in other people’s reactions and/or that they could see something was wrong but didn’t know how to address it, but I concluded that people generally don’t see very much.
I agree.
Women usually try to conceal how much they dislike it—for fairly good reasons. They assume that the purpose of street harassment is to cause discomfort, so they want to deny reinforcement to the harassers.
At least some men who do street harassment have a belief that women secretly like street harassment, which mean that they (the men) discount such indications of dislike as they might notice.
I believe that people in general are much less clueful about other people’s emotions than it feels like they should be from the inside. Now that I think about it, I’ve only known one person who could read me accurately when I was shielding (some of the time), or at least only one who talked about what he was seeing.
When I was going through a very bad spell, I was interested to notice that the way I was treated didn’t seem to change at all. Now it’s plausible that I was missing some subtleties in other people’s reactions and/or that they could see something was wrong but didn’t know how to address it, but I concluded that people generally don’t see very much.