I’m not sure. In my experience, people tend to respond to exceptional treatment with exceptional treatment. That I so readily put trust in people is often perceived as a sign of high social capital. As if my prior is that they will respond in kind, which I’d only have if I was used to that kind of thing.
And the funny thing is, people actually do respond in kind, so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
One important requirement is that you apply the same kind of respect to yourself. The proper mindset seems to be “we are excellent and both of us deserve the best”, not “you are excellent” or “I am excellent”. Think win-win.
I mean that when I try to present the idea that you should do this for everyone, I get a LOT of pushback. I put in “you shouldn’t do this for everyone” specifically so people wouldn’t think that anyone should do it for ME, and therefore fight me on the premise.
Uh, well I don’t know you, but it seems unlikely that anyone would deny an argument just because it’s conclusion (vaguely) implies that you should be regarded with respect.
I’m not sure. In my experience, people tend to respond to exceptional treatment with exceptional treatment. That I so readily put trust in people is often perceived as a sign of high social capital. As if my prior is that they will respond in kind, which I’d only have if I was used to that kind of thing.
And the funny thing is, people actually do respond in kind, so it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
One important requirement is that you apply the same kind of respect to yourself. The proper mindset seems to be “we are excellent and both of us deserve the best”, not “you are excellent” or “I am excellent”. Think win-win.
Yeah, that’s gonna be a hard sell.
What do you mean?
I mean that when I try to present the idea that you should do this for everyone, I get a LOT of pushback. I put in “you shouldn’t do this for everyone” specifically so people wouldn’t think that anyone should do it for ME, and therefore fight me on the premise.
Uh, well I don’t know you, but it seems unlikely that anyone would deny an argument just because it’s conclusion (vaguely) implies that you should be regarded with respect.