From my current understanding, there is so much more going on in a marriage ceremony that is worth mentioning here. A carefully designed, meaningful, public ritual seems to be a huge way that humans reinforce their sense of what they value & what their life narratives are about.
Relevantly, I would guess that the act of making the GWWC pledge has much less of this positive effect of reinforcing one’s values and sense of meaning, and thus is easier to break.
We did the traditional marriage ceremony. Neither of us particularly cared nor paid attention to the exact wording of it. It’s not legally binding, unlike the papers we signed, which were.
There are so many more practical reasons to not get divorced I can’t imagine the exact wording matters to most people—especially given we were largely hearing it for the first time that day, only to promptly forget it.
I wonder if being too creative with your wedding could in theory lower the social pressure. The more it moves away from “traditional,” the less others consider it a marriage, maybe. Or not!
From my current understanding, there is so much more going on in a marriage ceremony that is worth mentioning here. A carefully designed, meaningful, public ritual seems to be a huge way that humans reinforce their sense of what they value & what their life narratives are about.
Relevantly, I would guess that the act of making the GWWC pledge has much less of this positive effect of reinforcing one’s values and sense of meaning, and thus is easier to break.
We did the traditional marriage ceremony. Neither of us particularly cared nor paid attention to the exact wording of it. It’s not legally binding, unlike the papers we signed, which were.
There are so many more practical reasons to not get divorced I can’t imagine the exact wording matters to most people—especially given we were largely hearing it for the first time that day, only to promptly forget it.
I wonder if being too creative with your wedding could in theory lower the social pressure. The more it moves away from “traditional,” the less others consider it a marriage, maybe. Or not!