However, I would really like to see the development of a general norm on LW against being offended. About anything.
Amen!
I might change that phrasing a bit, though, since it’s more about expression than the actual being offended part. For example, one can say, “When you said X, I felt personally offended for reasons Y and Z”, and this is not in the same category as accusing the commenter of being a bad person.
Is that an intentional reference to NVC or are you just independently clever? :)
Neither. ISTM this sort of statement is seen in a lot of self-help, communication, and related works. Where it originated, I don’t know, but I’ve seen similar things stated as far back as 1985, and most recently I’ve seen an excellent explanation and set of demonstrations of it in AMP’s “Foundations of Inner Game” program… and I’ve stolen their formulation of it as the format for giving feedback in Mind Hackers’ Guild practice circles.
Fair enough. I suppose it also fits the basic i-statement syntax I learned long before I’d heard of NVC. You can treat my reply just as generic agreement and approval, then.
Amen!
I might change that phrasing a bit, though, since it’s more about expression than the actual being offended part. For example, one can say, “When you said X, I felt personally offended for reasons Y and Z”, and this is not in the same category as accusing the commenter of being a bad person.
Is that an intentional reference to NVC or are you just independently clever? :)
Neither. ISTM this sort of statement is seen in a lot of self-help, communication, and related works. Where it originated, I don’t know, but I’ve seen similar things stated as far back as 1985, and most recently I’ve seen an excellent explanation and set of demonstrations of it in AMP’s “Foundations of Inner Game” program… and I’ve stolen their formulation of it as the format for giving feedback in Mind Hackers’ Guild practice circles.
Fair enough. I suppose it also fits the basic i-statement syntax I learned long before I’d heard of NVC. You can treat my reply just as generic agreement and approval, then.