Possibly related: at one point I was spending lots of time on mailing lists. In particular lots of time composing long replies.
At one point I noticed something: I was replying to things that weren’t questions.
I taught myself to notice whether what I wanted to respond to had the useful punctuation that some human languages use to signal a question: ”?”. If I didn’t see that, I wouldn’t write anything in reply.
Now I was spending much less time on the lists.
(This was a good first step, but what you’re talking about in the above—noticing when you have questions—seems harder to me.)
Possibly related: at one point I was spending lots of time on mailing lists. In particular lots of time composing long replies.
At one point I noticed something: I was replying to things that weren’t questions.
I taught myself to notice whether what I wanted to respond to had the useful punctuation that some human languages use to signal a question: ”?”. If I didn’t see that, I wouldn’t write anything in reply.
Now I was spending much less time on the lists.
(This was a good first step, but what you’re talking about in the above—noticing when you have questions—seems harder to me.)