Something is said in explainy voice, but heard as complainy voice.
A person uses explainy voice, but to an unreceptive audience. The person gets defensive and switches to complainy voice.
A blog post is written from an explainy voice motivation, but peppered with complainy voice about the outgroup to make readers enjoy it more and be more likely to share it on facebook.
Complainy voice about the outgroup feels more like explainy voice, to listeners in the ingroup.
Explainy voice about something you are doing wrong feels more like complainy voice.
There’s an insecure perspective in which almost any explainy voice sounds like comlpainy voice, because you don’t want to admit that you don’t know things—explaining feels like critically pointing out that you don’t know things. Is there a perspective from which almost any complainy voice sounds like an explainy voice? (I suspect there is, and I suspect it’s mostly just a better perspective to have, but I’m not sure.)
Is there a perspective from which almost any complainy voice sounds like an explainy voice? (I suspect there is, and I suspect it’s mostly just a better perspective to have, but I’m not sure.)
There is. It’s hard work.
These are all very much excellent examples of the problem between the two.
A few interesting cases:
Something is said in explainy voice, but heard as complainy voice.
A person uses explainy voice, but to an unreceptive audience. The person gets defensive and switches to complainy voice.
A blog post is written from an explainy voice motivation, but peppered with complainy voice about the outgroup to make readers enjoy it more and be more likely to share it on facebook.
Complainy voice about the outgroup feels more like explainy voice, to listeners in the ingroup.
Explainy voice about something you are doing wrong feels more like complainy voice.
There’s an insecure perspective in which almost any explainy voice sounds like comlpainy voice, because you don’t want to admit that you don’t know things—explaining feels like critically pointing out that you don’t know things. Is there a perspective from which almost any complainy voice sounds like an explainy voice? (I suspect there is, and I suspect it’s mostly just a better perspective to have, but I’m not sure.)
There is. It’s hard work.
These are all very much excellent examples of the problem between the two.