This is tangential, but I have a wary attitude toward Crocker’s rules. It is truly important to learn to receive criticism well (without feeling hurt or defensive), but it is equally important to learn to deliver criticism well (signalling genuine desire to help rather than hostility). I feel that people / groups who are enthusiastic about Crocker’s rules sometimes come across as expecting people to adopt these rules and neglect their own skill of delivering criticism.
Ignoring people’s emotions doesn’t make a discussion more rational, but the opposite. Making everyone feel safe and comfortable (meaning, not on trial and not in a fight or contest) is what enables rational, impartial discussion.
This is tangential, but I have a wary attitude toward Crocker’s rules. It is truly important to learn to receive criticism well (without feeling hurt or defensive), but it is equally important to learn to deliver criticism well (signalling genuine desire to help rather than hostility). I feel that people / groups who are enthusiastic about Crocker’s rules sometimes come across as expecting people to adopt these rules and neglect their own skill of delivering criticism.
Ignoring people’s emotions doesn’t make a discussion more rational, but the opposite. Making everyone feel safe and comfortable (meaning, not on trial and not in a fight or contest) is what enables rational, impartial discussion.