Ok, now you’ve gone on to “modern culture is worse than earlier culture”. I don’t feel like I have a good handle on the culture to which you refer, so I can’t really comment, in the sense of going “you think modern culture is like X, but I think modern culture is like Y, let’s discuss”. You seem quite sure of your opinions, but I don’t know what your evidence is.
I will disagree with this, though:
The reason we feel less shame is because we removed weight from sexual relationships.
When I spoke about people feeling less shame around having experienced sexual assault now than in the past, it was definitively not because they came to place less weight on sexual relationships. Maybe different generations have different opinions on sex, but I’m skeptical that the people I grew up with have radically different views on sex now than they did when we were younger. The reason for reduced shame around having been sexually assaulted was common knowledge that it was happening to many people, and the women who had experienced it feeling less alone. I base this statement on conversations with women I know, before and after 2016 (the MeToo thing was when common knowledge of a societal problem was established). It is possible that young people today place less weight on their sexual relationships, I don’t know, but that sounds like a talking point a Catholic might have made about what would happen when birth control was new technology in the 1960′s and early 1970′s—I don’t see a technological reason why it should be the case now. And statistically, surveys appear to show that young people are having less sex than prior generations, which isn’t what I would expect if they were like “meh, sex isn’t a weighty matter”.
I have seen opinions like “modern people are weak degenerate hedonistic cowards who revel in copious casual sex” expressed online, but I’m aware that attention-based filters are being applied to what I see, and also 90+% of all comments are made by a small number of constantly online people with an axe to grind. So I don’t consider what I see online as strong evidence of what the culture I live in is actually like. I weight more heavily the conversations I have with people around me, or people I know well who have moved away but we keep in touch, or statistical research with some attempt at rigor. And the people I have spoken to, are generally not weak degnerate cowards who treat sex lightly. I know people both young (in their 20′s) and old (in their 80′s), and the young people seem basically good, and the old people seem proud of their grandchildren’s many virtues, and generally impressed with the younger generation, relative even to their own kids in some cases.
Separately from what you see online from people unknown to you, what are the people you talk to offline, or know well, like? If you were to base your statements about what people are like only on what you know about people you know fairly well, what conclusions would you draw about what people are like in society today? The same as above? (It is of course possible that the people I know aren’t representative of society as a whole, and neither are the small number of people you will know personally, but I’m curious what your experience has been).
It does seem like I’m drifting, but I don’t think I am. The problem is incentives, and incentives tend to be materialistic and degenerate. I shouldn’t call it modern culture, for I think that culture is actually disappearing. (culture, like religion, is like a defense against incentives, since it creates subjective values which defend against objective metrics of value). There is no longer any meaningful difference between most countries thanks to globalism, which is why I’m not specifying which culture. There’s no point in saying “That one where people are having less children, and where less and less people believe in religion” as that’s everywhere. I could even say something specific like “The country where the biggest bills you can have of their currency is getting smaller over time compared to inflation, in order to make currency more digital as a measure against crime, also beef is getting expensive” and that’s still basically everywhere.
I looked it up, and while younger generations have more permissive attitudes toward relationships, it seems that both rates of cheating and socities attitude towards it are stable. Acceptability of premartial sex about doubled since 1970. But according to the data I just found, neither the average nor the mean number of sexual partners is increasing over time. Rate of virginity seems to fall from 60% at 18 years old to 2% at 25 years old(!). Virginity at 18 is increasing over time, but virginity at 25 is decreasing, so I was almost mislead by the increasing age of consent (another global pattern of change). I’m still pleasantly surprised by this data, which is the same as me admitting that I was somewhat wrong about it.
I may be biased in that I’m getting older, which means that the people around me generally care less over time. One becomes much more superficial and practical from age 15 to 30. I’ve gone from meeting multiple people who wrote the name of their partner in their arm with a kitchen knife, to hearing people say things like “Our relationship wasn’t practical so we broke up”, so it’s no wonder that people seem less deep over time.
>what conclusions would you draw
I grew up around many bad people, and stopped interacting with people from my own country as a result. But the online friends I know on a personal basis are quite sexually open, even though I feel like I’m filtering away hedonists and nihilists. By the way, when I started using the internet in my pre-teen years, it was dominated by intelligent libertarians, and today it’s mostly dumb conformity and brainrot, so it’s no wonder I feel as if that’s getting worse, too.
I’ve noticed a large increase in how much people care about politics. A large decrease in individuality and strength of character/personality. Increased socialization (homophily). Also a huge decrease in the desire for freedom to step outside of the Overton Window, and a large increase in wanting freedom within the Overton Window. The crabs in a bucket mentality also seems increasingly common, and one is expected not to behave in ways which can be misunderstood by those who look for the worst in others. If one doesn’t signal that they don’t hold value X, they’re now assumed to hold value X.
Do you remember how people made myths up around video games? “There’s a mew hidden behind the truck!”, etc. There’s no hidden information anymore, no exploration, and therefore no soil for culture to grow. Everyone just follows the current meta. In the same exact sense, our current society feels increasingly Plaza-like, whereas it used to feel Warren-like. This seems to have a bad influence on socialization.
Ok, now you’ve gone on to “modern culture is worse than earlier culture”. I don’t feel like I have a good handle on the culture to which you refer, so I can’t really comment, in the sense of going “you think modern culture is like X, but I think modern culture is like Y, let’s discuss”. You seem quite sure of your opinions, but I don’t know what your evidence is.
I will disagree with this, though:
When I spoke about people feeling less shame around having experienced sexual assault now than in the past, it was definitively not because they came to place less weight on sexual relationships. Maybe different generations have different opinions on sex, but I’m skeptical that the people I grew up with have radically different views on sex now than they did when we were younger. The reason for reduced shame around having been sexually assaulted was common knowledge that it was happening to many people, and the women who had experienced it feeling less alone. I base this statement on conversations with women I know, before and after 2016 (the MeToo thing was when common knowledge of a societal problem was established). It is possible that young people today place less weight on their sexual relationships, I don’t know, but that sounds like a talking point a Catholic might have made about what would happen when birth control was new technology in the 1960′s and early 1970′s—I don’t see a technological reason why it should be the case now. And statistically, surveys appear to show that young people are having less sex than prior generations, which isn’t what I would expect if they were like “meh, sex isn’t a weighty matter”.
I have seen opinions like “modern people are weak degenerate hedonistic cowards who revel in copious casual sex” expressed online, but I’m aware that attention-based filters are being applied to what I see, and also 90+% of all comments are made by a small number of constantly online people with an axe to grind. So I don’t consider what I see online as strong evidence of what the culture I live in is actually like. I weight more heavily the conversations I have with people around me, or people I know well who have moved away but we keep in touch, or statistical research with some attempt at rigor. And the people I have spoken to, are generally not weak degnerate cowards who treat sex lightly. I know people both young (in their 20′s) and old (in their 80′s), and the young people seem basically good, and the old people seem proud of their grandchildren’s many virtues, and generally impressed with the younger generation, relative even to their own kids in some cases.
Separately from what you see online from people unknown to you, what are the people you talk to offline, or know well, like? If you were to base your statements about what people are like only on what you know about people you know fairly well, what conclusions would you draw about what people are like in society today? The same as above? (It is of course possible that the people I know aren’t representative of society as a whole, and neither are the small number of people you will know personally, but I’m curious what your experience has been).
I looked it up, and while younger generations have more permissive attitudes toward relationships, it seems that both rates of cheating and socities attitude towards it are stable. Acceptability of premartial sex about doubled since 1970. But according to the data I just found, neither the average nor the mean number of sexual partners is increasing over time. Rate of virginity seems to fall from 60% at 18 years old to 2% at 25 years old(!). Virginity at 18 is increasing over time, but virginity at 25 is decreasing, so I was almost mislead by the increasing age of consent (another global pattern of change). I’m still pleasantly surprised by this data, which is the same as me admitting that I was somewhat wrong about it.
I may be biased in that I’m getting older, which means that the people around me generally care less over time. One becomes much more superficial and practical from age 15 to 30. I’ve gone from meeting multiple people who wrote the name of their partner in their arm with a kitchen knife, to hearing people say things like “Our relationship wasn’t practical so we broke up”, so it’s no wonder that people seem less deep over time.
>what conclusions would you draw
I grew up around many bad people, and stopped interacting with people from my own country as a result. But the online friends I know on a personal basis are quite sexually open, even though I feel like I’m filtering away hedonists and nihilists. By the way, when I started using the internet in my pre-teen years, it was dominated by intelligent libertarians, and today it’s mostly dumb conformity and brainrot, so it’s no wonder I feel as if that’s getting worse, too.
I’ve noticed a large increase in how much people care about politics. A large decrease in individuality and strength of character/personality. Increased socialization (homophily). Also a huge decrease in the desire for freedom to step outside of the Overton Window, and a large increase in wanting freedom within the Overton Window. The crabs in a bucket mentality also seems increasingly common, and one is expected not to behave in ways which can be misunderstood by those who look for the worst in others. If one doesn’t signal that they don’t hold value X, they’re now assumed to hold value X.
Do you remember how people made myths up around video games? “There’s a mew hidden behind the truck!”, etc. There’s no hidden information anymore, no exploration, and therefore no soil for culture to grow. Everyone just follows the current meta. In the same exact sense, our current society feels increasingly Plaza-like, whereas it used to feel Warren-like. This seems to have a bad influence on socialization.