I zoned out halfway through your attempt to justify benign boundary violations, because the defense feels like such implicature. The first section of your post built a mental model for me in which I heard you saying “I would like reassurance that I belong to a group which sets and follows social norms distinct from those of society at large”, to which I reply, “well duh”.
I was recently introduced to the concept of geek social fallacies, and the “no valid and wholesome social group can have norms other than those of the wider society” thing that you seem so (justifiably, imo, unfortunately) worried about getting slapped with for writing this feels like it rhymes closely with those.
Thank you for discussing a thing online which can often be socially dangerous to discuss. I think you did it well.
I zoned out halfway through your attempt to justify benign boundary violations, because the defense feels like such implicature. The first section of your post built a mental model for me in which I heard you saying “I would like reassurance that I belong to a group which sets and follows social norms distinct from those of society at large”, to which I reply, “well duh”.
I was recently introduced to the concept of geek social fallacies, and the “no valid and wholesome social group can have norms other than those of the wider society” thing that you seem so (justifiably, imo, unfortunately) worried about getting slapped with for writing this feels like it rhymes closely with those.
Thank you for discussing a thing online which can often be socially dangerous to discuss. I think you did it well.