Curated. I think does post does indeed do a good job of talking about a fraught topic. One of the things that impressed me when I first joined the LW/rationality community is how societal norms were questioned, and when found to be sub-optimal, were locally changed. Ready examples here are vocal disagreement, providing/requesting critical feedback, publicly changing your mind, and polyamory. It’s been a while since I’ve seen a new example and I’m glad to see this one discussed because I agree with Duncan that things feel like they’ve been shifting regarding boundaries in the last decade, and it’s worth thinking about that. As Duncan suggests, maybe it’s the right direction for things to move, but let’s consider the costs.
(I have my personal experience of this from a Bachelor’s party: a friend had requested we do something before his wedding and I hatched a plan that involved “kidnapping” him. I was pretty confident he’d be entirely fine with it (he was), but some people were very vocally concerned in a way that could have easily prevented this fun and memorable experience.)
Curated. I think does post does indeed do a good job of talking about a fraught topic. One of the things that impressed me when I first joined the LW/rationality community is how societal norms were questioned, and when found to be sub-optimal, were locally changed. Ready examples here are vocal disagreement, providing/requesting critical feedback, publicly changing your mind, and polyamory. It’s been a while since I’ve seen a new example and I’m glad to see this one discussed because I agree with Duncan that things feel like they’ve been shifting regarding boundaries in the last decade, and it’s worth thinking about that. As Duncan suggests, maybe it’s the right direction for things to move, but let’s consider the costs.
(I have my personal experience of this from a Bachelor’s party: a friend had requested we do something before his wedding and I hatched a plan that involved “kidnapping” him. I was pretty confident he’d be entirely fine with it (he was), but some people were very vocally concerned in a way that could have easily prevented this fun and memorable experience.)