I think it’s possible to work towards not being offended by such things as remembering the times when one was accidentally offensive, by checking on whether one’s standards are reasonable, and by evaluating actual risks of what the offensive thing might indicate.
That doesn’t mean one can or should run one’s offendedness down to zero, but (depending one where you’re starting), it’s possible to town it down.
I think it’s possible to work towards not being offended by such things as remembering the times when one was accidentally offensive, by checking on whether one’s standards are reasonable, and by evaluating actual risks of what the offensive thing might indicate.
That doesn’t mean one can or should run one’s offendedness down to zero, but (depending one where you’re starting), it’s possible to town it down.