But your “everyday social behavior” strikes me as quite dysfunctional. To put a relationship under continual threat on an everyday basis strikes me as extremely harmful to a relationship, and I believe I’ve read research to that effect. People should expect that their mates will leave them if they’re unhappy with the relationship, but making that a prominent subtext of everyday give and take seems quite unpleasant to me.
You are disapproving of a straw man. Things like ‘continual threat on an everyday basis’ are (once again) your construction, not mine.
My judgement tells me it is time for me to embrace the BANTA and leave this thread. Neither the subject (“let’s decide who to shame and blame!”) nor the style seem desirable.
On the other hand making equivalent behavioral signals that indicate that you are the kind of person who has sexual options and have the kind of personality that considers satisfying your preferences to be important and having the other person’s instincts adjust to the implied incentives is basically just everyday social behavior.
I wrote:
To put a relationship under continual threat on an everyday basis
Doesn’t look like a straw man to me, but have fun embracing the Banta.
You are disapproving of a straw man. Things like ‘continual threat on an everyday basis’ are (once again) your construction, not mine.
My judgement tells me it is time for me to embrace the BANTA and leave this thread. Neither the subject (“let’s decide who to shame and blame!”) nor the style seem desirable.
You wrote:
I wrote:
Doesn’t look like a straw man to me, but have fun embracing the Banta.