It’s a good heuristic, but can be very psychologically difficult. E.g. if you think that not even trying to communicate will be seen as unjustified in retrospect even if people should know that there was no obvious way for you to communicate. This has happened enough to me that the thought of just giving up on communication is highly aversive; my fear of being blamed for not preventing others to take unjustified actions (that will cause me, them, and the universe counterfactually-needless pain) is too great. But whatever, I’m starting to get over it.
Like, I remember a pigeon dying… people dying… a girl who starved herself… a girl who cut herself… a girl who wanted to commit suicide… just, trust me, there are reasons that I’m afraid. I could talk about those reasons but I’d rather not. It’s just, if you don’t even make a token gesture it’s like you don’t even care at all, and it’s easier to be unjustified in a way that can be made to look sorta like caring than in a way that looks like thoughtlessness or carelessness.
(ETA: A lot of the time when people give me or others advice I mentally translate it to “The solution is simple, just shut up and be evil.”.)
It’s a good heuristic, but can be very psychologically difficult. E.g. if you think that not even trying to communicate will be seen as unjustified in retrospect even if people should know that there was no obvious way for you to communicate. This has happened enough to me that the thought of just giving up on communication is highly aversive; my fear of being blamed for not preventing others to take unjustified actions (that will cause me, them, and the universe counterfactually-needless pain) is too great. But whatever, I’m starting to get over it.
Like, I remember a pigeon dying… people dying… a girl who starved herself… a girl who cut herself… a girl who wanted to commit suicide… just, trust me, there are reasons that I’m afraid. I could talk about those reasons but I’d rather not. It’s just, if you don’t even make a token gesture it’s like you don’t even care at all, and it’s easier to be unjustified in a way that can be made to look sorta like caring than in a way that looks like thoughtlessness or carelessness.
(ETA: A lot of the time when people give me or others advice I mentally translate it to “The solution is simple, just shut up and be evil.”.)