Perhaps the kind of meditation where you try to label everything is not a good fit for resting between work? Because it sounds like work, only of a different kind, so you are not really taking a break to relax. Maybe try some loving kindness meditation instead?
Yes! It’s work, as I understand it, that kind of pre-meditation work, to properly wrap things up before practicing mindfulness.
Like, to have loving-kindness in my rational side, to align myself properly and finish the work well before truly resting.
You know, when a system doesn’t have a stopping criterion, it doesn’t know if it’s worth resolving now, if it’s too complex at the moment, or if it’s already resolved enough to rest. So, I’m looking for a way to align my internal investments and be able to pause. Does that make sense?
How do you conclude your rational/productive moment, Viliam?
I can procrastinate on a task a lot, like I know that I should do something, but at the same time I am afraid to start, because I am not sure about something or I expect a problem.
So, starting is a big problem for me. Stopping is not. What is done, is done. Maybe it sucks, but I have many other things to do (which doesn’t mean that I am actually doing those other things, maybe I am just procrastinating on them).
I know people who make a choice and then spend weeks thinking about whether it was the right choice, sometimes to the extent that they can’t focus on other things before them. I am not like that. I think a lot before doing a thing, not after it is done.
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Right now, our washing machine broke, and we need to buy a new one. So I wrote a list of criteria, found some machines in a shop that seem to fit them, downloaded their manuals, made screenshots of the pages that contain their programs (length, temperature, load). I have been preparing this for a week. Now I will give the summary information and screenshots to my wife and let her choose, and hopefully she will either choose quickly or leave the choice to me (I already have a preference), then I will buy it, and I will no longer think about “what if we bought a different one”.
As I know my wife, she will spend the following month second-guessing our choice (and it will be super annoying for me) and then hopefully she will get used to it.
Jaja, espero que la ropa ya esté limpia. No me había dado cuenta de que rumiar no se trata solo de pensar en el pasado, sino también de rumiar sobre predicciones futuras… Ni siquiera sé cómo llamar a pensar demasiado, jaja.
Por ejemplo, podría pasar más tiempo considerando opciones de lavadoras porque disfruto pensando en ellas. Y es un problema más fácil de resolver que otros en los que trabajo. Así que “rumiaría” pensando en varios aspectos, como “¿qué lavadora tiene el botón más cómodo de presionar?”, y dejaría de trabajar, por así decirlo.
Entonces, cuanto más tiempo y esfuerzo dedico a planificar mis proyectos, menos tiempo paso procrastinando. ¿O no tiene sentido?
Perhaps the kind of meditation where you try to label everything is not a good fit for resting between work? Because it sounds like work, only of a different kind, so you are not really taking a break to relax. Maybe try some loving kindness meditation instead?
Yes! It’s work, as I understand it, that kind of pre-meditation work, to properly wrap things up before practicing mindfulness.
Like, to have loving-kindness in my rational side, to align myself properly and finish the work well before truly resting.
You know, when a system doesn’t have a stopping criterion, it doesn’t know if it’s worth resolving now, if it’s too complex at the moment, or if it’s already resolved enough to rest. So, I’m looking for a way to align my internal investments and be able to pause. Does that make sense?
How do you conclude your rational/productive moment, Viliam?
I am not very productive, but typically my work is concluded when the time runs out or someone interrupts me or the original goal is achieved.
So you don’t experience rumination?
I guess not much, compared to some people I know.
I can procrastinate on a task a lot, like I know that I should do something, but at the same time I am afraid to start, because I am not sure about something or I expect a problem.
So, starting is a big problem for me. Stopping is not. What is done, is done. Maybe it sucks, but I have many other things to do (which doesn’t mean that I am actually doing those other things, maybe I am just procrastinating on them).
I know people who make a choice and then spend weeks thinking about whether it was the right choice, sometimes to the extent that they can’t focus on other things before them. I am not like that. I think a lot before doing a thing, not after it is done.
.
Right now, our washing machine broke, and we need to buy a new one. So I wrote a list of criteria, found some machines in a shop that seem to fit them, downloaded their manuals, made screenshots of the pages that contain their programs (length, temperature, load). I have been preparing this for a week. Now I will give the summary information and screenshots to my wife and let her choose, and hopefully she will either choose quickly or leave the choice to me (I already have a preference), then I will buy it, and I will no longer think about “what if we bought a different one”.
As I know my wife, she will spend the following month second-guessing our choice (and it will be super annoying for me) and then hopefully she will get used to it.
Jaja, espero que la ropa ya esté limpia. No me había dado cuenta de que rumiar no se trata solo de pensar en el pasado, sino también de rumiar sobre predicciones futuras… Ni siquiera sé cómo llamar a pensar demasiado, jaja.
Por ejemplo, podría pasar más tiempo considerando opciones de lavadoras porque disfruto pensando en ellas. Y es un problema más fácil de resolver que otros en los que trabajo. Así que “rumiaría” pensando en varios aspectos, como “¿qué lavadora tiene el botón más cómodo de presionar?”, y dejaría de trabajar, por así decirlo.
Entonces, cuanto más tiempo y esfuerzo dedico a planificar mis proyectos, menos tiempo paso procrastinando. ¿O no tiene sentido?