Also I’m a man and the message was very much that my sexual feelings are gross and dangerous and will probably hurt someone and result in me going to jail.
Previously in life, I’ve used a kind of slave-moral inversion by telling myself that I’m such a good ally by not making women afraid. This was a great cop-out to avoid facing my deeply-held insecurity. It’s also not true, women get way more enthusiastic when I express interest in them.
I’ve written a bit about this on my blog, here’s a post on consent, and a (slightly nsfw) post on my own sexual development
Previously in life, I’ve used a kind of slave-moral inversion by telling myself that I’m such a good ally by not making women afraid. This was a great cop-out to avoid facing my deeply-held insecurity. It’s also not true, women get way more enthusiastic when I express interest in them.
I’ve written a bit about this on my blog, here’s a post on consent, and a (slightly nsfw) post on my own sexual development