That doesn’t correspond to what I am thinking. It would be more like me flashing a smile and saying thank you for you holding the door open while I am carrying a large package. I appreciate your effort, but no relative status message is given.
I wouldn’t describe that act as predominantly about status but even so a relative status message is given. Specifically it signals that the difference in status that you claim is below the threshold at which you would take their effort as your due and their obligation. That you smiled, rather than just saying thank you gives a further message—thanking without smiling would, all else being equal, give a message of somewhat greater relative status in your favor.
And I am making the point that, if you communicate status changes with your praise, then you have failed the point of the exercise of providing peer feedback.
That seems false. The communication of the status change is a largely unavoidable side effect of the providing of peer feedback. Distorting the peer feedback such that no net status change is implied by the feedback will potentially corrupt the feedback, not sanctify it.
I wouldn’t describe that act as predominantly about status but even so a relative status message is given. Specifically it signals that the difference in status that you claim is below the threshold at which you would take their effort as your due and their obligation. That you smiled, rather than just saying thank you gives a further message—thanking without smiling would, all else being equal, give a message of somewhat greater relative status in your favor.
That seems false. The communication of the status change is a largely unavoidable side effect of the providing of peer feedback. Distorting the peer feedback such that no net status change is implied by the feedback will potentially corrupt the feedback, not sanctify it.