See which time discounts and distance discounts you make for how much you care about others.
Compare how much you care about others with how much you care about you.
act accordingly.
To know what you care about in the first place, either assess happiness at random times and activities, or go through Connection Theory and Goal factoring.
It’s been done to me, too, and as I recall, it didn’t do all that much good. The major good effect that I can remember is indirect—it was something to be able to talk about the inside of my head with someone who found it all interesting and a possibly useful tool for untangling problems—this helped pull me away from my usual feeling that there’s something wrong/defective/shameful about a lot of it.
See which time discounts and distance discounts you make for how much you care about others. Compare how much you care about others with how much you care about you. act accordingly.
To know what you care about in the first place, either assess happiness at random times and activities, or go through Connection Theory and Goal factoring.
Why do you recommend Connection Theory?
It’s been done to me and I like it.
It’s been done to me, too, and as I recall, it didn’t do all that much good. The major good effect that I can remember is indirect—it was something to be able to talk about the inside of my head with someone who found it all interesting and a possibly useful tool for untangling problems—this helped pull me away from my usual feeling that there’s something wrong/defective/shameful about a lot of it.
What did you get out of Connection Theory?