I don’t think this is really that much different from parents who blame themselves for their child not performing well on an exam because they didn’t sign them up for a private tutor.
I feel like there’s a fundamental emotional difference when it comes to genetic limitations, just because of how much more unfair they feel. As you point out, it’s not logical—picking the traits that you want for your kid increases their expected happiness in life and is definitely a morally good action.
I feel like there’s a fundamental emotional difference when it comes to genetic limitations, just because of how much more unfair they feel. As you point out, it’s not logical—picking the traits that you want for your kid increases their expected happiness in life and is definitely a morally good action.