I’ve been furious at the way you apparently discounted the work it takes to get over niceness conditioning, and the only reason I haven’t been on your case about it is that I was distracted by wanting to be nasty—but I lack the practice at flaming people.
Both nice and nasty are errors, although I can imagine nasty being useful as a learning exercise on the way to curing oneself of niceness.
I didn’t mean to belittle the effort (although that is a fair reading of what I wrote). Just to say that that is the task to be done, and the thing to do is to do it, whatever effort it takes. aelephant’s comment above, that’s what I would call dismissive.
I’m not sure why I found your comment that much more annoying than aelephant’s. I have a hot button about being given direct orders about my internal states, so that might be it.
It’s possible that practicing niceness could be a learning exercise on the way to curing nastiness, too, but we’re both guessing.
Yes, that is precisely the meaning I intended.
I’m amazed.
I’ve been furious at the way you apparently discounted the work it takes to get over niceness conditioning, and the only reason I haven’t been on your case about it is that I was distracted by wanting to be nasty—but I lack the practice at flaming people.
Both nice and nasty are errors, although I can imagine nasty being useful as a learning exercise on the way to curing oneself of niceness.
I didn’t mean to belittle the effort (although that is a fair reading of what I wrote). Just to say that that is the task to be done, and the thing to do is to do it, whatever effort it takes. aelephant’s comment above, that’s what I would call dismissive.
Thanks for saying it was a fair reading.
I’m not sure why I found your comment that much more annoying than aelephant’s. I have a hot button about being given direct orders about my internal states, so that might be it.
It’s possible that practicing niceness could be a learning exercise on the way to curing nastiness, too, but we’re both guessing.