Recently someone did something to me that would have been a very serious violation of trust in ~50% of worlds (involving taking some private feedback I’d written for someone and sending it to them), but on reflection I was happy with what I wrote, so I didn’t mind. But I told them that had it gone wrong (which it easily could’ve) they wouldn’t have had any defense and I would have been absolutely furious with them. They realized how close they came to doing something exceedingly costly and changed their policies going forwards, but I did not actually punish them in that instance because nothing bad happened.
This had a similar distinction, where the seriousness of the crime was high, but the severity of the case was low, so there was nothing to punish.
I find this a helpful distinction!
Recently someone did something to me that would have been a very serious violation of trust in ~50% of worlds (involving taking some private feedback I’d written for someone and sending it to them), but on reflection I was happy with what I wrote, so I didn’t mind. But I told them that had it gone wrong (which it easily could’ve) they wouldn’t have had any defense and I would have been absolutely furious with them. They realized how close they came to doing something exceedingly costly and changed their policies going forwards, but I did not actually punish them in that instance because nothing bad happened.
This had a similar distinction, where the seriousness of the crime was high, but the severity of the case was low, so there was nothing to punish.
If I was you I’d still trust them less.
Seems right.